Monday, April 11, 2011

Sportsmanship for Parents

Here is a splendid piece borrowed from one of the websites from another Youth Lacrosse program in our area. I certainly wish certain people would read these guidelines each season:

As a parent, you play a special role in contributing to the needs and development of youngsters. Through your encouragement and good example, you can help assure that all the boys and girls learn good sportsmanship and self-discipline. With your help, young people can learn to work together, to sacrifice for the good of the team, to enjoy winning and deal appropriately with defeat - all while becoming physically fit and healthy.Best of all, they will have fun.

Support Your Child
Supporting your child by giving encouragement and showing interest in their team is very important. Help your child work toward skill improvement and good sportsmanship in every game. Teach your child that hard work and an honest effort are often more important than victory - that way your child will always be a winner despite the outcome of the game!

Always Be Positive
Parents serve as role models for their children. Become aware of this and work to be a positive role model. Applaud good plays by your child's team as well as good plays by the opposing team. Support all efforts to remove verbal and physical abuse from youth sports activities.

Remember That Your Child Wants to Have Fun
Remember that your child is the one playing lacrosse, not you. It's very important to let children establish their own goals - to play the game for themselves. Take care not to impose your own standards and goals on them. Don't put too heavy a burden on your child to win games. Surveys reveal that 72% of children would rather play for a losing team than ride the bench for a winning team. Children play for the fun of playing.

Reinforce Positive Behavior
Positive reinforcement is the best way to help your child achieve their goals and their natural fear of failure. Nobody likes to make mistakes. If your child does make one, remember it's all part of learning, so encourage your child's efforts and point out the good things your child accomplished.

Don't Be a Sideline Coach or Referee
Coaches and referees are usually parents just like you. They volunteer their time to help make your child's youth lacrosse experience a positive one. They need your support too. That means refraining from coaching or refereeing from the sidelines. As a volunteer organization, there's usually always an opportunity for you to take your interest in coaching or refereeing to the next level and become one yourself!


Preppy 101 said...

Amen, amen, amen. xoxo

James said...

I am in total agreement, but often we are a voice in the wilderness.

LPC said...

Oh you are so, so right. Maybe parents should have to sign an agreement like this, before their children are allowed to play.

Sundresses and Smiles said...

what a great post, i couldn't agree more! i still am shocked whenever i hear stories on the news of crazy parents at their kids' sporting events (makes me nervous as a future teacher...)

JMW said...

I so agree with this. And, I'm with LPC - this should be part of a "contract" that parents sign at the beginning of the season. I'm in the protective cocoon of 5-6 year old jr. soccer right now; very supportive and positive. I hate to think of it changing, but I know that as they grow older, sometimes parents' behavior can get uglier. ;)

Pete said...

Thank you.